Usually we’re not trying to be an asshole, and we hold no ill-will towards the person we’re arguing with. In fact we might feel closer to them than other people. So what’s really going on here?

...many of us will continue to suffer from this kind of impulsivity. I am not one of those people. I’m reserved. Introverted. I don’t tend to blurt. So, imagine my surprise when I find out that I’m equally difficult to talk to.

If something is interesting, then we’re hooked.  This openness to stimuli can be fantastic, but can also be a problem. It is very common for the stimuli to be too much and cause overwhelm.

In some people this will cause an all-out refusal to take responsibility for their actions. In others it will lead to increased negative self-talk, significantly lowered self-esteem, and apprehensiveness.